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June 17, 2023In Episode 7 of Every Widow Thing podcast, we delved into a topic that resonates deeply with many of us: signs from our loved ones who have passed. It’s a phenomenon that can bring immense comfort and reassurance, reminding us that even though they are no longer physically with us, their presence can still be felt in profound ways.
Signs Can Come in Many Forms
One of the most profound insights we shared is that signs from our loved ones can manifest in various ways—whether it’s through music, dreams, or even unexpected encounters. These aren’t always grand, overt messages; sometimes, they are subtle whispers that catch us by surprise.
For instance, Holly shared a touching moment when a specific song played during a significant life event, instantly reminding her of her husband. The music that brought a wave of warmth and a feeling of his presence right there with her. Similarly, some find comfort in seeing a particular animal, finding a lost object suddenly appear, or even a scent that evokes a vivid memory. These signs can bring us comfort and reassurance, reminding us that our loved ones are still with us in spirit.
Embrace the Signs, Don’t Question Them
It’s so easy, isn’t it, to rationalize away these moments? To dismiss them as mere coincidences or our minds playing tricks on us. But as we discussed, it’s important to recognize that these moments are valid and meaningful.
Keira shared her experience of seeing her husband in dreams. These dreams brought her a mix of emotions – joy in the connection, but also the pang of their physical absence upon waking. Yet, instead of questioning their significance, she is learning to embrace them as gifts. These aren’t just random occurrences; they are moments that can offer a deep sense of connection and love that transcends physical absence. Allowing ourselves to feel that connection, without overthinking it, can be incredibly healing.
Grief Can Sometimes Cloud Our Vision
It’s also important to acknowledge that in the depths of our grief, it can sometimes be incredibly difficult to perceive these signs, even if they’re right in front of us. When we’re consumed by pain, sorrow, and the raw ache of loss, our focus can narrow, making it hard to notice the subtle ways our loved ones might be reaching out. This isn’t a failing on our part; it’s simply a testament to how profoundly grief can impact our perception. Be gentle with yourself during these times. The signs are still there, waiting for a moment when you might be more open to receiving them.
You’re Not Alone in This Journey
As we navigate this journey, it’s crucial to lean on each other and recognize that we are all in this together. Hearing another widow share a similar experience of receiving a sign, no matter how unique, can create a powerful bond. Our shared stories can provide comfort and strength as we continue to heal.
Have you experienced a sign from a loved one? reach out to us and share your story or join our online community to connect with others who understand. The Every Widow Thing Insiders Facebook group. https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CsHd2Z3y8/